Lose Weight Before You Date? Ain’t Nobody Got Time for That
If you’re holding off on dating until you’ve lost the weight, bought better clothes, or are a brilliant future version of yourself, you’ve set the worst goal ever. Because it’s not a goal. It’s a slippery slope defined by — what? An arbitrary number on the scale? The day your bangs grow out? Until you’ve achieved an unassailable state of self-love? source In the immortal words of Sweet Brown, ain’t nobody got time for that. You’re not an Apple product set to launch sometime next year. You may think you’ll be shinier, cooler, or more desirable in the future, but really what you’re saying is that you don’t think anyone could like you now. You think you’re planning. But you’re really just procrastinating. A woman named Jen wrote to ask me if she should stop dating until she achieved her goal weight. She was admittedly on the heavy side but had never kept it a secret or masked it in her online profile. She didn’t mince words, and neither did some of her respondents. She got some messages a...